Happiness Can Be Taught

I’m no relationship expert. The only relationship that I can really be considered an expert at is my own. It’s sort of a dirty little secret that my partner and I are so happy in one another—like goofy-happy, adoringly stare into each other’s eyes type happy. We don’t fight; we rarely so much as disagree, and we genuinely enjoy spending time together. So while I might not be able to comment on someone else’s relationship issues, I am able to discuss what works for us.

I wandered into knowledge of positive psychology by accident. Well, accident and a date. My partner teaches the stuff and, since he’s my partner, I care about what he cares about, and vice versa.

Or at least will listen to the other ramble on and on when all we want to do is take a shower and go to sleep. (That is, by the way, how you know its love, when he matters more to you than your pillow does.)

Positive psychology reverses a lot of the teachings from other branches of psychology, namely looking at what is right as opposed to what’s broken or pathological. It also emphasizes that happiness can be taught.

In the spirit of this, I’d like to reflect about happiness in relationships, mostly romantic relationships, since—surprise!—I write erotica, and erotica by nature tends to deal with romantic relationships to some degree. And also because, as far as relationships and positive psychology go, that’s where my expertise lies. So over the coming weeks, this is what I can teach about what works for us, and hopefully it can be adapted into something to work for you.

Keep smiling; it makes them wonder what you’re up to.

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